2017年10月15日托福独立写作范文：Most adults believe that modern children (5-10 years old) behave worse than those in the past. What action parents should take do you think will have the most positive effect on children to help them behave better like respecting and treating others kindly?
1. limiting the type of TV program and movies children watch
2. spending more time to talk with kids
3. supervising or monitoring children when they play with their friends.
1.激发热爱学习的行为 > 监督孩子(家长没有时间)
2.学习技能，改善行为 > 和孩子交谈
Never is educating children an easy thing. Particularly, today’s children are confronted with many harmful temptations and influences, leading to the undesirable result that some of them have bad behaviors like showing disrespect or saying vulgar language towards others. What can parents do to change this? Some parents try to set limitation to the TV programs and movies they watch, whereas some others decide to implement supervision or monitoring while they are interacting with their friends. In my opinion, for parents, sacrificing their spare time to actively and friendly communicate with their children is a more effective way.
By spending more time deeply communicating with them, parents can better understand their children and exert positive guidance. Only by personally communicating with their children can parents know what they are mostly interested in, what kinds of psychological confusions or growing pains they are experiencing, what kinds of friends they are socializing with, who are their favorite heroes and idols, or what they want to do in the future. If parents can patiently and adequately communicate these with their children like intimate friends, and at the same time by sharing parents’ personal anecdotes or telling the stories of positive role models, timely and imperceptibly guide their children with positive thinking and values, such as always being kind and polite to others, being an honest person, not speaking ill of others, always respecting teachers and elders, having a grateful heart, saving food and avoiding wasting and extravagance, and always being ready to help others. Then, gradually, children’s misconceptions and improper behaviors will be effectively corrected.
The other two ways in the three options are somewhat unfriendly and compulsory, which could backfire. As we all know, 5-10 years old children are in the psychologically rebellious stage when they tend to resist authority and deliberately or stealthily act against their parents’ supervision, monitoring or limitation by behaving confrontationally. For example, the more parents limit the types of TV programs or movies, the more they are likely to, out of curiosity and resistance, covertly watch those TV programs and movies when their parents are absent or when they are in their friends’ houses or other places. Likewise, the more parents commit supervision or monitoring when they are associating with their friends, the more likely, if they knew it, they could lose trust in their parents and even loathe their parents’ behaviors, becoming more rebellious and intractable. From news reports and in our everyday life, we often hear of stories about how parents’ strict discipline results in children’s rebellious behaviors, which in turn worsens their relationships with their parents. Therefore, these two mandatory or coercive approaches may lead to the vicious circle.
In the final analysis, faced with children’s undesirable behavior habits, compared with mandatory measures, such as limiting the types of TV programs or movies, and monitoring their interactions with their friends, directly speaking to or chatting with them in person is a gentler and more effective way.