2017年5月6日托福独立写作范文：It is impossible to always be completely honest with your friends? (17.05.06)
I know clearly that before the God and the Lord, every human mortal is a liar. But this does not mean that it is impossible to be entirely honest with friends. On the contrary, I have been and will be honest with all my friends.
Unlike the out-of-date commodities in the supermarkets or the fisher's markets that are discounted or depreciated, my honesty with friends and families is one hundred percent. And I advocate you all, my brothers and sisters in this world and the next, to be honest to your friends.
If you are honest to your friends, and your neighbors and your families as well, you are honest to your own heart and soul.On the contrary, if you tell lie to your friends, you betray yourself. Whose life can be lightened if the soul and heart has been betrayed? I therefore claim that true hearts and intelligent minds will always be honest to others,even to the foes, needless to say the friends.
I am especially interested in explaining what a friend is. Next I discuss why we must be honest with friends, and then we talk about how to be honest with friends.
A friend in need is a friend in deed, as the old saying goes. A friend is a friend. He or she is neither your father nor your mother, but a friend in many cases plays important roles that parents can not play. Therefore it is necessary to be entirely honest to be a friend. When in the childhood, human beings are born to be honest with friends and foes, if they have. But during the process of growing, human beings are tarnished spiritually and even physically. Gradually, the minds are misled and the individuals are on the brink of going astray. Lies, together with other sins such as jealousness, envy, fury, anger, rage, wrath, greed, voracity, ravenousness, resentment, have flooded into the minds whose thirsty could never be quenched by the fountain of the mundane sins.
The first time of dishonesty with a friend,no matter to what extent, is the very beginning of the injustice and the unrighteousness, which have the inherited evil strength to multiply and finally to ruin the human beings, individually or as a group of society as well.
Honesty is cherished human virtue. Regardless of the race, color, and the distinct dissimilarities among cultures, honesty is considered to be the very foundation and the building blocks of human personality, integrity, and dignity. Any one will be unhappy if he or she is cheated. A small lie might devastate the friendship and destroy everything good to spiritual and mental life.
To be honest to a friend, one is supposed to be the right-doer, not the evildoer. Also, it is necessary to be smart in language. In my life, I see lots of bright minds but sluggish and slow in good language. Although they do not intend to insult or cheat a friend, their words are not sound to the ears. I here say to you, especially my young friends, your words are full of strength. If you control well your words, you win your friends and the friendship will be ever green as the tress established by the clean streams.
It is not so easy to be entirely honest to friends, but this is just the very significance of our life in this world. My friends, I am entirely honest to you and I hope that you all be honest to me. I myself will be greatly encouraged by your honesty. I love you all and may you love each other and be honest with others in whatever circumstances.
No matter in the past or at present, it is undeniable that people keep making friends through their life time. A large proportion of them hold a viewpoint that in order to maintain long-standing friendship with others, we should always be honest with them. This is understandable and in most cases, commendable. However, after careful consideration about friendship, being completely honest with friends is definitely impossible. Here are some reasons and examples to support my view.
First, for the sake of maintaining friendship with others, being honest unconditionally is the last thing in the world we should choose. For example, when a friend is in preparation for a really important English speech competition, it is meaningless to point out that he is not going to win that competition and he is wasting time if he spends time on it, even the truth is that he speaks terrible English and has no logic in writing his speech draft. As friends, we should not and cannot say so when we are given such situation. If you do choose being honest in this case, this friendship will possibly be over and that friend’s feelings will be hurt so badly that he may blame you. Alternatively, you can help him practice his oral English and together with him correct the mistakes in his speech draft, rather than being so honest that sacrifice your friendship with him.
Second, considering the characteristic of friendship, sometimes we cannot be completely honest with friends in terms of our own issues. For example, the password of our bank account should be avoided to tell friends. And the financial situation is not something we ought to be honest with them. What is more illustrating, the fact that you hate your boss cannot be shared with your friends from work and you think someone you and your friend both know is not a kind person cannot be shared with that friend. The former may very much likely get you be fired and the latter may possibly lead that two people to defriend with you. Similarly, when your break up with your girlfriend, it is unnecessary to be honest with your friends about the reason. And when you are sick or bankrupt, you cannot tell any friend that you need help. Doing so will only make your friends leave you unless they are bosom ones who are willing to sacrifice time and their hard-earned money to help you out. As we can see from above explanation, it is impossible and not beneficial to always be completely honest with friends.
But I am not saying that we should not be honest with friends. Being honest is respectable and may also bring some benefits to both of the two friends and contributes to the friendship sometimes. For example, if you points out the shortage of your friend honestly, he may overcome that shortage and become a better man, which in turn, will enhance your friendship with him since he will appreciate you for this. Unfortunately, things will not always going like this, especially when you have embarrassed him while being honest with your friend. And regarding personal issues, being completely honest with friends sometimes is showing trust and intimacy; nevertheless, doing so is also filling your friends’ life with trivial things to deal with. As time goes by, that friend may feel too exhausted to be friend with your anymore. Then, you will have no friend to be honest with.
All in all, it is stupid to always tell the truth in friendship and doing so is in effect impossible. Considering the particular nature of friendship, being reserved with friends is more practical and contributable. But lying to friends is by no means a wise choice and it is better for us to not say anything rather than lie to them when something is not suitable for them to know.