2016年8月21日托福独立写作范文Some people think being away from friends can contribute to a good relationship, since they will cherish our relationship. Others think we should stay with friends, which is beneficial to our relationship, and being away from friends will destroy the bond. Which one do you prefer? (16.08.21)
Human beings are social animals and we have the internal desire to connect to others. Some people believe it helps to develop relationships when people who you care about are in distant places while others argue that spending time with loved ones as much as possible can develop better relationships. Personally, I am in favor of latter position since maintaining any kind of distant relationships has many inherent pitfalls.
First off, any kind of intimacy and relationship needs the physical presence of both parties to feel their love, care and inspiration, be it friends, families or loved one. Families members need family reunions to catch up with each other, and frequent hangout with friends can be a catalyst for maintaining intimate friendship, more importantly, this is especially true for lovebirds, who suffer from loneliness and unhappiness when their significant other is in a distant place. For those who are in love, it is very disheartening to communicate with their loved one in less personal way even though there are some technological gadgets available, like sending emails, making long-distance phone class or even face time with each other, however, these modern ways of communication is less effective and affectionate compared with talking to each other in person.
Additionally, long distance can cause a series of problems, especially trust issue among couples. When couples can meet up every single day, it can foster a sense of security and stability. Unfortunately, when living far away apart will make them lose this sense of togetherness. It might be possible for couples in a long distance relationship to make frequent communication via phones, emails or other sort, nonetheless, when one part is getting familiar with the surrounding environment they might be bored just talking on the phone without seeing each other in person for a long time. Things get worse either of the party is flirtatious or having a wandering eye. When new and interesting people appear, couple under these less-than-clear-headed situations might make bad decisions.
Lastly, long distance relationship can be very expensive and costly. One might be able to afford frequent meet up in a nice restaurant or go to the cinema once in a while, however, they might find it expensive and costly to plan frequent trip when living in different zip-codes, regions or even countries since it involves very expensive air ticket, train ticket and sorts of transport expenses. Even though one can tighten their financial belt and spend less, nevertheless, they might have to pay frequent long-distance phone bills and shipping cost of care packages. These costs and expenditure can add up and gradually the financial will hurt long term relationships.
To conclude, long distance doesn't not help to develop healthy and sustainable relationship of any sorts, instead it jeopardizes relationship since it causes trust issues, lacks of physical presence and incurs huge cost.