2019年7月27日雅思写作题目：Some parents give their children everything that their children ask for and accept what their children want to do. Is this good for children? What could be consequences for these children when they grow up?
It is true that all parents tend to spoil their children as a natural sign of showing love. Nevertheless, the negative effects of over-spoiling in childhood can well last into adulthood.
While there is nothing wrong with showing a great deal of love to children, over-indulgence is definitely not good for children. As a matter of fact, parenting is about loving children without spoiling them, which means that parents have to reinforce good discipline in their children. Without good discipline, children would never know what self-control is. Unfortunately, too often things go the other way. That may explain why spoiled children are on the rise in modern society as many parents give their children everything that they want to have or they want to do in order to please them.
The spoiled children are likely to grow up to be unhappy and unpleasant adults. They may feel unhappy when they are not allowed to fulfill their wishes immediately. Also, they would turn into unpleasant grown-ups for being narcissistic, believing that they deserve “special” treatment without having to follow rules in social situations. When they grow up, then, the over spoiled children will find it hard to cope with the real world and end up either isolated or antisocial. That is why we can always trace back the drug takers and criminals to their family background where they were excessively spoiled children.
In conclusion, spoiling is bad for children because it can really hurt their long-term development. Spoiling children is easy, for it is always done in the name of love, but it will be really hard to repair their broken adulthood.
My 5-year-old cousin has a magical finger: whatever she points at, she gets it. Her latest trophy is a grand piano, which she barely lays her eyes on now. “I just can’t say ‘no’ to her!” Her father sighs.
Understandably, parental love is unconditional, but satiating every caprice of children is not just wrong. It is dangerously wrong. I get that childhood is a kind of experience we can only have once in a lifetime, and that if children are treated with particular generosity, they will have a carefree childhood.
However, the pampering parents miss the point that childhood is also a critical period during which characters and personalities are shaped. Children are children. With their cognition insufficiently developed, they would get the wrong message that everything can be obtained at their wish, with no effort to make and no price to pay. Gradually, doing something taxing will be unbearable for the spoiled kids. The innocent little angels unconsciously become lazy, dependent, self-centered, and at the extreme of this pole, greedy. Also, their admiration for parents will start wearing off, when finally they ask for something beyond their parents’ reach.
Things will go from bad to worse in adulthood. Parents’ role of committed sponsors can only last to a certain age. After that point, children are all on their own. In a romantic relationship, no one wants to be a “mom/dad”, babysitting a clingy 20-year-old boy/girlfriend. According to a recent study, many failed marriages are due to the immature characters of a headstrong husband/wife. When it comes to the workplace, deficiencies that formed in the childhood will continuously take their toll. Generally, employees are expected to be diligent, responsible and cooperative, which are exactly qualities in short supply in spoiled children. Even if they can pass an interview, they will be the first to be taken off the payroll when their real characters show up.
To wrap up, it is significant for parents to educate children that they can only get what they deserve. Everything they want should be earned, not given.